When chasing a girl, you must learn to take the initiative. If your mentality and thinking are all led by a girl, you will definitely not be able to chase her. So how do you take the initiative when chasing a girl?
How do you take the initiative when you chase a girl?
1. Continuously optimize your own appearance
Girls do not judge the value of a boy through his words, but through hidden communication.
To put it simply, girls will judge the value of a man by his dress, image, temperament, and manner of speaking.
Only when boys have a good appearance can girls get your confidence, stability and other qualities.
So, if your hair style is not good, go spend some money to find a teacher Tony to style it.
If the clothes are not good, go to the dressing guide to try a dressing style that suits you.
If your skin is not good, go to the doctor and use some skin care products.
2. Show your own standards for mate selection
The reason why many boys cannot get out of singles is that they are too attached At the girl's request.
A girl said she liked a boy who was 1.75 meters tall, but he was only 1.7 meters tall, and she instantly felt inferior. The girl said that she likes a boy who drives a sports car, but his monthly salary is only 6,000, and he instantly feels inferior.
As time goes by, I feel more and more inferior to myself.
Then you say, this initiative will definitely not be in your hands.
And if men want to take the initiative in love, they need to demonstrate their own standards for mate selection. Because when people want to obtain certain benefits, they will subconsciously rely on other people's standards.
Girls can tell you that they want a boy who is 1.75 meters tall. Why can't you say that I like girls with gentle personalities and sweet looks?
Girls can tell you that you want handsome and rich boys. Why can't you tell girls that I hate money-worshiping girls?
The core of showing one's own criteria for choosing a mate is to have dislikes and joys.
"You are disgusted" means that you are disgusted with certain characteristics of girls. For example, you hate money worshipers and double standards.
"Youxi" means that you like a certain characteristic of a girl, for example, you like a girl's gentleness, good skin, etc.
Right, if you like it, you just like it, if you hate it, you just hate it.
As long as you are in the ambiguous period and as long as she has a good impression of you, she will unconsciously think about these things, which means that at least from this moment on, you are equal.
3. Have your own opinions
Many boys are coy and afraid to express themselves. This is aA lack of assertiveness.
So no matter how nice a boy like this is to a girl, the girl will only give him a good guy card, and the initiative is still firmly in his hands.
If you want to get rid of this embarrassing situation, it is very simple, take the initiative to express it. There are two key points, one is to get rid of self-anxiety, and the other is not to fall into the girl frame.
The easy way to get rid of self-anxiety is to predict how to deal with the worst outcome before you go out to meet someone.
Prepare for the worst, and then you will think, well, that’s all.
After you predict, won’t you be able to deal with any situation easily? Will your mentality be affected?
If you don’t fall into the girl’s frame, you won’t satisfy the girl unconditionally. requirements.
Before a relationship is established, the less you satisfy a girl’s overbearing requirements, the more she will be willing to take the initiative to consider your feelings and thoughts.
