Quarrels between lovers and even husbands and wives are common, and bumps and bruises are inevitable when people get along with each other. Men will always irritate women unconsciously. What's worse is that men don't even know why women are angry or crying.
Emotions, a physiological state, are always erratic, especially in women. How to comfort an angry girlfriend is a problem that most men will encounter.
So in life, if your girlfriend gets angry and cries for no reason, how will you comfort her? Of course, the prerequisite is that you have to have a girlfriend.
1. Avoid ideological misunderstandings.
Misunderstanding 1: Don’t think that she doesn’t love you because she is angry and ignores you or loses her temper with you. Many male compatriots will intensify conflicts and even create irreversible situations because of this ideological mistake.
Women’s ideological outlook is different from that of men, and their anger indicators are also very different.
Many small problems and things that make women angry are equivalent in the eyes of men to "can they be angry?" When it comes to dealing with things, if a man loves a woman, he will not care about it, but The more you love, the easier it is to get angry. Why are many girls said to be "acting"?
Most of them want to desire the love of others through "acting". The most prominent one is to have unprovoked quarrels with close people.
Misunderstanding 2: Don’t explain blindly. Because many men love or feel sorry for their girlfriends, they start to explain and apologize constantly after accidentally making their girlfriends angry. Are you sure that what you explained is the reason why she is angry? Are you sure that the more you explain, the more trouble you will get?
Some people say that such boys are very pure and live completely in their own world, and that's right A straight man with terminal cancer, boy, I don’t think this is a compliment.
Explanation is necessary, but it must be done in a methodical manner. Explanation blindly can easily be self-defeating and give people the impression that you are just excusing yourself. Keep reading, I will talk about the methods later.
Misunderstanding 3: Don’t bring up old things just to explain. If you don't want to add fuel to the fire, don't bring up the bad things that happened.
Give an example. My friend AA and her boyfriend had a little conflict. The reason was that AA saw that there was an ex-girlfriend’s WeChat account on her boyfriend’s WeChat account. The boyfriend was anxious, fearing that AA would get angry the more he thought about it, so he explained, "She encountered some problems at work two months ago. She added me on WeChat to ask if I could help. Don't you know this? Why are you still angry?"< /p>
AA suddenly became even more angry, with red eyes, "When she has something to do, she comes to you for help. Do you just help her if she asks you to? Are you my boyfriend or her boyfriend? Why do you still like to help her so much? Break up!"
It makes sense to bring up such old things again.Did Shi Yue add fuel to the fire?
2. Try to understand as much as possible why she is angry.
When a woman acts, there are various reasons. Even if you have high emotional intelligence, you can still be overwhelmed. Therefore, when it comes to "dealing" with her behavior, you have to understand why she is suddenly angry and unhappy. At least you have to understand whether she is angry because of others or because of you. Discovering the cause of anger is the root of solving the problem.
Of course, as a man with a more masculine temperament, especially a rectal man, unless you have just finished arguing, it may be difficult for you to figure out why she is suddenly angry.
Therefore, it is recommended that men take the initiative to ask questions, remember to have a good attitude, and show your concern for her in every sentence. Never use the word "and", such as "Why are you angry again?", such as "You What's wrong?" This will definitely reveal your impatience and that you are accusing her of being unreasonable.
Many men will say that it is useless to ask "why are you angry" when a woman is particularly capable. Because many women will reply, "You don't even know why I'm angry, you don't understand me at all!" "You're so outrageous, you don't even know!" and so on.
Then here, men need to use their attitude to prove that they really don’t know. When women are angry, they all long to be coaxed. Even if they are stubborn and say, "Don't worry about it," "Go away," "Who cares about you," and "Don't talk to me," most women are hard-mouthed and soft-hearted. While telling you to get lost, I'm thinking in my heart: Why don't you come and coax me.
Ask her why she is angry, and coax her while asking. Then don't just say "Okay, okay, it's all my fault" when you don't know why she is angry. This is an admission of fault. The method will appear particularly insincere.
As long as she leaks a little bit of information, you should quickly seize the opportunity to "admit your mistake". For example, if she says, "How could you do that last night?" you have to think of what you said or did something wrong last night that made her unhappy.
3. Find ways to comfort her and coax her, and try to meet her small demands at the moment.
Women are eager to be coaxed. However, what I want to say here is that today’s women, especially those over the age of twenty-five, have passed the age of hearing about love, so don’t just talk sweet words forever. Too many sweet words can sometimes have the opposite effect.
Comfort her little mood and coax her like a baby. What is "baby"? "Baby" is not just a casual name, but a sincere way of treating her as your most sincere and precious woman. Women are all sensitive. Whether you are sincere or false, she will know with just one look in your eyes.
Satisfy her small requests. However, the satisfaction I mentioned here is limited to small requests, such as a luxury bag that costs tens of thousands, emptying the shopping cart with a total price of several thousand, buying a diamond ring or even Whether a car needs an accessory card or something like that is a minor requirement depends on each male compatriot based on his or her own situation. After all, for most salaried workers, the above-mentioned requirements are naturally not small requirements.
What should you do if your financial strength is not enough? At least you can satisfy her by going out for a good meal, agreeing to travel during the next long vacation, and accompanying her to buy the cat she likes. I fell in love with a dress that cost several hundred yuan and bought it.
4. Give the other party the sense of security they want based on their own situation.
Women all desire to be pampered, pampered and taken care of. In most cases, women are more insecure than men. The source of security is not just words. After all, we have all experienced it. The age of hearing love. So, you can use actions to tell her how much you love her.
Never believe her "I want to be alone". After the relationship is over, you might become your ex-boyfriend. And never say, "I've already apologized, what else do you want from me?" This is the same as not apologizing or even directly telling her that you are not wrong at all and that you don't want to apologize at all.
Of course, love is mutual. While you are trying your best to love and care for her, the premise is that she also really cares about you. If she always makes unreasonable troubles from time to time, challenges your bottom line, and even makes you abandon some very important principles for her, then put her away and let her be alone.
Passionate love needs to be cherished by those who understand. No matter how passionate a person loves another person, it cannot withstand the endless consumption and torment of the other person.
