Love is a slow process of getting together. If you get along well, you will be able to achieve positive results. Otherwise, the work will be divided. I have heard of various reasons for breaking up, ranging from living habits to cheating. So in love, What misunderstandings do boys fall into?
Three major misunderstandings about love:
1. Just move your mouth but not your hands
Girls need to be coaxed, especially girls in love. No matter what the problem is, no matter who the root cause is, they must be coaxed. If not coaxed, they will break up.
Let’s not discuss whether this kind of thinking is right or wrong for the time being. Let’s just see how well it is coaxed.
When I was a pure boy, I had a girlfriend who was as beautiful as a flower.
At that time, we were young and had a lively mind, and we could say anything nice (apologise). But after all, being young, it is inevitable that they are more energetic. There is more and more friction between the two of them (this friction is not friction with the other, don’t think about it.) The number of quarrels is also increasing. The quarrels are not important, and the two of them are not together. Arguing is not perfect, but how to calm down after the quarrel is over is a skill.
My rule is to apologize first, then give in, and give small gifts to make people feel better. Tried and true. Later, we broke up.
At first, I didn’t understand it very much. The young master has said everything he needs to say. If Wang Mazi in the next class has no appearance and no temperament, why did he break up with me and throw himself into his arms? So, one dark and windy night, I gathered my little brothers and we bet together.
My little girlfriend was very excited. She completely ignored the fierce eyes of my little brothers and cursed me.
“I’m so nice to you (I used to be one of the top three treasures in nightclubs), why did you follow Wang Mazi?”
“You’re so nice to me, get out of here, Don't let me look down on you."
"Every time I quarreled with you, and every time I didn't apologize, what more do you want from me?" You apologized, what about the follow-up? You promised me to quit smoking? You promised me to study hard and get into a university, but you got the last place in the monthly exam? "
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“Get out.”
“I’ll change it. Isn’t it okay if I change it?”
“Change it? You promised me when we were together, Stay away from you bastard friends, what are you doing now?"
"Line in the middle, use full control, and complete a single kill with full health. I lost my love and I lost my little brother.
But this incident inspired me a lot.
Many brothers will feel the same way. In order to appease their girlfriend’s anger, they promised to do everything. They promised to do housework but ended up not touching the broom once in two months. They promised to quit smoking but ended up smoking a pack a day. One and a half bags, promised to go to bed early but stayed up until two or threepoint. What did this get in exchange? It's the resentment accumulated in the girl's heart. It is the girl who is disappointed again and again.
Breaking up is never a sudden thing, but a long, natural process full of disappointment.
2. At home
There is a saying: We give the best to strangers People's worst temper is given to those closest to them.
How stressful is life nowadays, especially when Jiro is still at that age? It’s like playing mahjong. It’s really nothing if you want anything, and nothing if you don’t have anything. The pressure of competition is high and the pressure of employment is even greater. After finally finding a job, I start to worry about keeping my job. This has also led to the phenomenon that many boys are cautious and cautious at work.
A man is a man who stands upright. As the old saying goes, it is not a gentleman not to retaliate when one has a grudge. The anger he has received is stored in his heart, just waiting for the day of revenge.
But it’s your fault to take it out on the people around you when you’re just sitting there.
The company recruited some interns a while ago, and each one was full of energy and hardworking. In contrast, the famous old man in my company couldn’t help but feel embarrassed. How do you say that? ? There is no harm without contrast. My boss looked at me in a wrong way, and I was worried about my job while being looked down upon by my boss, which made me extremely stressed at work.
My girlfriend is out of town, so we have to video chat every night. I was not willing to talk to her when I got bored at work, so I hung up after making three or two sentences in the video chat. My girlfriend also had strong opinions on me, and the outcome was obvious. We had a big fight and started to break up.
Then I can’t just watch the breakup? So I started the ultimate dog-licking mode. After all the sweet words, she was still unmoved.
It’s not like we haven’t quarreled before, but this time it was surprisingly fierce. To capture the thief, we must capture the king. I have to know what the main factor is. After a few days of silence, I called her again and had a good chat.
I won’t write down what she said in detail. The main content is: She didn’t recruit me or mess with me, so why should I show off to her?
Only by finding the root cause can we prescribe the right medicine. I told her what I had experienced these days. She comforted me with a few words of kindness, and the matter passed.
Home is a haven from the wind. When two people are together, they should support each other instead of blindly showing each other their bad sides.
3. Life has no sense of ritual
Is there a girl in this world who doesn’t like a sense of ritual? exist. But more girls still care about the sense of ceremony. This is why the business of selling diamonds is always so good.
But many brothers always sneer at the sense of ritual and buy itemsSpending money to eat hot pot is not a chain. Spending money to buy lipstick is not to buy cigarettes. Buying flowers is not to spend money to drink. For many brothers, these things that have no actual value are all called IQ taxes. 520 and Chinese Valentine's Day are all promotional methods invented by unscrupulous merchants. I have also seen my girlfriend ask him for a birthday gift, and he replied to the girl: "The child's birthday is the mother's Good Friday."
Is the sense of ritual important? Very important. This represents your attitude towards the other person. You can be cash-strapped but you can't live without money. Without a sense of ritual in life, it is easy for the other party to understand that you are indifferent to her. In the same way, small surprises and touches in life also need to exist.
Here, I would like to sort out the five festivals of the year for male compatriots that require giving gifts: Valentine’s Day, February 14th; May 20th, May 20th; Chinese Valentine’s Day, early July of the lunar calendar Seven; on love anniversaries, take care of yourself; on birthdays, take care of yourself.
