It seems very simple to comfort girls, but it is difficult to do it. After all, most boys can only know that girls are unhappy, but they don't know what they can do. It took a long time to comfort me, but it was of no use at all. Here are the correct ways to comfort a girl.
How to comfort her when she is happy when she is not a girl?
1. Don’t give instructions, listen patiently
If a girl is not happy, but you don’t know it happened What, what should I do? Of course there is a reason, but many boys fall over at this step. Because girls come to you for comfort, but their emotions go faster than their reason, and they are just expressing their sadness. Maybe they haven’t thought about giving it all to you. If you instantly enter a comforting state and ask directly and urgently, she will feel more relieved. At this time, the girl may respond to you as if she is a different person. It's nothing, forget it, I don't want to say it anymore.
In fact, just changing an expression can produce a completely different effect. When getting along with girls, change goal-oriented thinking into process-oriented thinking. The focus of a girl is to establish an emotional connection with him, not to solve the problem directly. Of course, you should also pay attention to boundaries and avoid touching each other's privacy. If a girl doesn't want to tell you what happened, don't rush to ask, just show concern and let her subconsciously know that you have been there.
2. Actively care about and sympathize with each other
When girls express their unhappiness to us, many boys can’t wait to show their tenderness and considerateness, but forget that girls are the The protagonist of this conversation. So, when a girl tells her, we try not to interrupt her. This is not a good time for you to express your opinion. You just need to listen patiently and echo when appropriate.
Some boys are favored by girls because they know how to listen. In this process, although you cannot fully understand, you must also affirm the girl's emotions. Instead of telling a girl that she did something wrong, we can tell her that sadness is a normal emotion.
3. Express comfort, whether right or wrong
When a girl has finished all the questions and After a comprehensive conversation, her emotions were greatly vented and she was calmer than when she first came to you. At this stage, our game space is larger, but the core is still to pay attention to the feelings of girls, not to discuss right and wrong, and not to give opinions to the media. You can express your willingness to help the other person, but don't assume that you go directly to the girl for help and advice. It will appear arrogant and easily taken advantage of by some green tea girls with ulterior motives. What you have to do is to downplay the girl's negative emotions and improve your own presence.
For example, when she is almost adjusted, you can ask to meet, tell her to relax, and then take the girl to do things she likes, such as going to the park, watching movies, and eating and drinking desserts.
IfIf a girl is still emotionally unstable, you can increase physical movements to ease her mood, such as hugging or shoulder-hugging. If the intimacy between you is not enough, you can also choose to pat the arm or shoulder. Making the girl feel relaxed and happy in the process not only shows your value, but also allows her to feel closer to you emotionally.
Of course, some girls need companionship, some girls need calm, and different incidents are handled differently. Many times, silent companionship is more useful to girls than the truth, and a hug is more reassuring than a thousand words. For comfort to work, you need to feel it with a sincere heart.
