The novelty will be completely lost with the loss of time, and many friends will feel that they no longer love after the novelty is lost. In fact, the love is still there, but it is not as strong as it was at the beginning. So here is an extension of the question, how can couples keep things fresh? Today I will talk about this topic with you.
1. Discover freshness from the inside rather than from the outside
There is a saying about love that is particularly good. :
"Love is not about experiencing the same thing with various people, but experiencing various things with the same person."
People will have a period of burnout. When one day you find that being with the people around you is as boring as touching your right hand, don't go to the outside world to find freshness from others, but find freshness from within your relationship.
Most of the reasons why relationships are dull are because they live an unchanging life between three o'clock and one line every day. Let alone an ordinary person, if you change your partner to Lin Chiling or Peng Yuyan, you will still feel bored. So, break out of the rut of life and do something you haven’t done before and places you haven’t been to.
For example, when both of you are free, you can go to the city to visit new and interesting stores, attend some underground concerts, interesting exhibitions, and the two of you can hold events in a garden near your home. A photography competition with just two people at a time, discovering the beauty of life together, or you can switch identities over a weekend, play each other, speak from each other's perspective, and get along with each other.
Don’t stay at home just because you’re lazy and live another day of ordinary life. Don’t delay changes. Do them as soon as you think of them. Only then can you achieve results.
You will find that even if you break the unchanging life pattern only once a week, there will be indescribable and wonderful changes in the relationship between the two of you.
2. A small farewell is better than a new love, and distance creates beauty.
After a couple’s relationship becomes stable, if they choose to live together, the sense of distance and mystery between them will disappear all of a sudden, and all the pretense at the beginning of the relationship will be gone in a short time. break in.
Two people will quickly embark on the life group of an old couple at the speed of light. Blandness and boredom are often the most distinctive themes of this life group.
When you wake up one morning and look at the person next to you and feel that you have developed a sense of burnout, as if you had been married for more than ten years, you should actually take the initiative to create some mystery and distance. .
One of the two people can go to live with a trusted friend, or go back to your own home for a period of time, which can last about 7 days.
In these seven days, two people can be as happy as they just startedYou should send messages and communicate on the phone just like you would when you first fall in love, but you should also leave enough private space for the other person, so that it makes sense to live separately for a short period of time.
After the time of separation is over, the two of you can go to a romantic restaurant to have dinner together that day. After that, you don’t have to go home and find a hotel to stay. After this set of procedures, you will definitely be able to Let the relationship between two people take on a new look.
3. Awaken feelings by recalling events
This method is more suitable for couples who have been together for more than two years. try.
When two people just get together, the ambiguous and heart-pounding feeling between them is very beautiful, but after being together for a long time, the daily necessities of life and heart are filled with food, rice, oil and salt, and they often forget How romantic and exciting the other person was.
Therefore, returning to the early days of love is to awaken past feelings by recalling events and color the current relationship again.
Two people can recall everything together in detail, including the place where they first met, the scene of the first date, the clothes they wore on the first date, the words they said, the topics they talked about, and the songs they sang for the first time. Song... Find a day off and recreate these elements of memories. Although at first you will feel that everything is known, will it be a bit boring?
But after doing it, each other’s state of mind at that time Your feelings for each other will be awakened, and a lot of freshness and excitement will come back. This is the operation of awakening the senses by recalling an event.
4. Learn and grow together
Whether it is emotional benefits or growth benefits, this is the most important thing for two people. They are said to be extremely large. An important factor in the loss of novelty in love is that there are fewer common topics.
The two of us have been together for too long. We have talked about everything we need to know. Life is not like a TV series where every day there are plots worth talking about. Of course, there will be nothing new. .
Therefore, if time allows two people, they can learn a new knowledge and skill together.
In the process of learning, it can be said that it is mandatory for two people to add a common language, discuss with each other, make progress with each other, and compete with each other. It adds many fresh and exciting elements to life, and the interactivity is greatly enhanced. , are you still afraid that life will not be fun?
And this positive feeling will drive away a lot of negative energy in the relationship between two people. It can be said to be the most profitable way to regain a sense of freshness.
The loss of novelty is an emotional bottleneck that almost every lover & couple will experience. However, being ordinary is not terrible. You must not bow to the ordinary life like a frog boiled in warm water, otherwise you will be unable to To explore and create new feelings, wait until both people start to want to passWhen external stimulation is used to eliminate internal dullness, the relationship will face crisis.
As long as two people are willing to take the initiative to change the status quo and add color and fresh experiences to life, it is not difficult to regain the freshness in the relationship.
