The way of thinking of boys and girls is different. For example, if a boy likes a certain woman, most of them will be direct and eager to establish a relationship with her. When I hold hands, I want to hug, and when I hug, I want to kiss...
But if this model develops too fast, girls will say to boys: "We are developing too fast! ”
In fact, this is a problem that gives many boys a headache. Many boys don’t know what to do at this time.
To solve this problem, we must first figure out why girls say they develop too fast, so that we can prescribe the right medicine. Generally speaking, when girls say "we are developing too fast", it is because of the following reasons:
Reason 1: The time you have known each other is too short, and the two parties have not changed. A deeper understanding shows that women lack a sense of security.
Maybe you know a lot about her, such as what she does, what time she gets up, what time she gets off work, and what she likes to eat, but she does not accept you psychologically. When she has something going on, she wants to find someone to talk to her about what's on her mind, but she doesn't know where to start. On the surface, you seem to be the closest person to her, but she still doesn't accept it in her heart.
Now you are just a good male friend that she has known for less than a month. She began to doubt the authenticity of it all. Why would she invest so much with someone in such a short period of time? She began to have insecurities.
Reason 2:Women are naturally reserved
Because for men, To put it bluntly, direct expression is called bold and unrestrained. But from a woman's perspective, all you want is her body. So you will find that often in the last step, girls will hesitate or even start to resist you. The right thing to do is to make the last step look like an accident, something that happens naturally.
We men can learn to give women a reasonable step, and we can break women’s natural reserved expression. For example, when you go to the hotel, you might say, "I'm tired, let's go take a rest first. I specially brought my cat here. It's so cute. I'll take you to see it~". This way the woman will have a legitimate reason to go to the hotel with you, you know.
Reason 3: Women are not afraid of feelings coming too quickly. Many women actually believe in love at first sight. , they are mainly afraid that men will run away if they don’t value them.
Almost all women have been with a few scumbag men and drank chicken soup for a few nights, so women are afraid that feelings will come and go quickly. If there are no obstacles in the pursuit of emotion, women themselvesThe reaction is that it feels like everything comes too easily, and you will definitely not cherish it. Therefore, this is what girls are really worried about.
Although love cannot be measured by time, your mutual understanding, attraction, and dedication are all inseparable from the time you spend together.
So what should a woman do when she thinks the development is too fast?
First of all, you Find a reasonable reason to like her. Although you may not be able to tell what exactly you like about someone if you like her, but if you don't tell her something specific, she will think that you are just playing with her. This reason can be something in the process of getting along with you, something in detail, to let her know that you really care about her. This can give girls enough sense of security.
It is best not to talk about external things, although she may be very happy for a while because you satisfy her vanity.
But at the same time, she thinks you are too superficial and only likes her because of her appearance. What you best like is her inner qualities, such as hard work, kindness, love, etc., and you also need to find things that can prove these qualities of hers, rather than praising her with things of this character from time to time, otherwise she will She will think that you don't pay much attention to her inner self.
Furthermore, there is no need to deliberately slow down the pace of your attack. You should understand her twice as much. This understanding does not mean control. I hope brothers will not misunderstand it.
You should learn to see things from her perspective, so that she will feel that you understand her very well.
It is normal for women to think that your pace is too fast, so you have to think about it beforehand, you may trigger this problem, and have your own answer.
For women, I actually want to tell you not to worry about the formal relationship, but more to hope that they can be more connected with each other mentally and sincerely.
